April 2005

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He comes much too close for comfort. There are times when I can feel his breath on the back of my neck, and I struggle not to shudder. He is, in a sense, my “boss” for the next few weeks. So I try to keep the look of disgust off my face when I see him. It’s quite an effort.

And it’s not really him. It’s more the idea of him. I’ve always had issues with older men in authority positions. There’s a creepiness to it all, being the only girl in the company of older men. I try hard to maintain some asexuality—big ill-fitting misshapened scrubs, ugly shoes, glasses, no makeup. I stand further away, leaning against the wall, clipboard hugged to my chest. Corners were made for me.

Once, we walked passed a mirror, the group of us. The surgeons towered, each over six foot tall, lumbering and hulking. I tried frantically to catch up, seemingly shrinking smaller and smaller as they went on. In the operating room, I drown in a sterile blue one-size-fits-all scrub gown. My gloves are size 6. I’ve never met anyone who wore a size 5 1/2. I was just not made for surgery.

And so I’ve try to stay out of the way. But he always comes too close.

I was going to move out of these hills and live by the ocean, with rain and fog. I was going to write a novel. I was going to marry a man who would read with me, and we would talk about Vonnegut and Salinger. I was eighteen and stupid.

In six years, it moved in me slowly like the creep of the cold in September. I didn’t even notice it, but once it was there, it opened my eyes. I love it here. Small town, quiet life, unpredictable weather, and Steve who wouldn’t read to save his life. I’ve got my favorite restuarants, and I’ve got my blacklist of shops I will never frequent again. I know back roads to avoid traffic. I swear at the seasonal undergraduates. I’ve stopped writing my poetry, but then again, maybe I don’t need to anymore. I’m happy here.

In a few months, I’ll be starting my applications for residency. I tell Steve that we can go far away, East Coast, to the ocean. But I hesitate. In truth, I wouldn’t mind staying here. I know part of it is comfort and familiarity—this is where I discovered Indian and Mediterranean food, where I found berry-picking farms, where I have a library card, where my bills are addressed, where I met Steve. The other part of me is just plain afraid. This town is my bubble, and who knows what’s on the outside.

But part of me doesn’t want this to be where I’ve found my life, much like the women who found their hairstyles in the ’80s and are forever stuck with big bangs and big bad perms.

So I still read. I still dream of writing a novel. And maybe Steve will never read with me, but perhaps, we can live by the ocean. Eighteen is not so bad, and neither is stupid.